Are weddings all about glitter, glamour and
glow? Sometimes that’s all they seem to embody, with people carried away by fun,
superficial but temporary matters - clothes, hairdos, venues and menus.
The truth is that a wedding isn't just a
big party with a prince and princess playing ‘let’s dress up and have some
fun’.
All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the
frost.
~ JRR Tolkien
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| Kalpanaa |
A wedding is such a huge celebration
because its about a couple starting a life together – an exciting life full of
shared decisions, shared meals, a shared bed a home together.
How do you harness that glitter, glamour and
glow and make it last through a long married life? How do you ensure you don’t figure in the
divorce statistics or worse still live in the confines of an unhappy marriage
to the end of your days?
There are a few surprising things to work
on to maintain the overall health of your marriage, and yourself. Some
surprising and some so incredibly simple you may be tempted to gloss over them.
Be
who you are to maintain the glow
When you met your partner you, hopefully,
didn’t try to hide your authentic self in an attempt to make a good impression.
You may have dressed it up a little with a clean shirt or some foundation but
you didn’t wear a mask and pretend to be something you aren’t. It’s your true
selves that attracted you to each other, that struck a chord and drew you
together. Holding on to that person who you were before you married is
important. This is particularly important in Indian culture where couples are
exhorted to ‘adjust’. Specially women. Don’t mistake ‘adjust’ for ‘give up who
you are because it’s inconvenient for others. ’
